Dealing with a pandemic in your 20s

Being in your 20s is kind of like setting yourself up for the rest of your life. You're either still figuring things out or maybe you're starting to settle down in a new job or relationship. Of course you could do this earlier or later than your 20s but I think for the most part people are finding themselves in one of these states. And when your life is in a state of flux already, there's nothing worse than something else coming along and further complicating things.

Things not to say to a black man

In a time when there should be a lot of listening happening, it seems as though people just want to talk because they believe they are doing something for the greater good, which is fine. If you witness an injustice then by all means speak out. But only because you perceive yourself to be doing the right thing it doesn't mean that you are. And once you put yourself out there you're going to have people who challenge you.

Showing Skin

When you hear the phrase "showing skin" it's usually in relation to someone inappropriately showing too much of their body. And as a society we've become conditioned to know what is socially acceptable to show and what isn't. For the most part we abide by these guidelines but it doesn't mean that people don't often want to push these boundaries. There are some societal norms that make sense, there are others that, not necessarily don't make sense, but it can be questioned as to why it is the way it is.

Everything wrong with your friends

Now, there are probably a lot of things wrong with your friends. Maybe they send you memes on Instagram from private accounts that you don't follow or maybe they insist on having ketchup with every meal. Friends come in all shapes and sizes and although we strive to be effective allies to our nearest and dearest we often get it wrong. I don't know if you know this but humans aren't always rational. We do dumb things, we make uninformed decisions and generally just get things wrong. Which is okay for the most part. However in regards to the people we call our friends we expect certain qualities.

That time I was stopped and searched

If you're looking for me to validate your feelings about the police then let me tell you right now I am not going to do that. If you need to fuel your own biases and opinions then go to Twitter. I am not here to tell you what to think or reinforce any beliefs you may already have. I am not here to say that racism infests the judicial system nor am I here to argue the opposite. I just want to give an honest and frank account about the time I was stopped and searched by the police.

It’s okay to care what other people think about you

It's time to normalise this. You're gonna hear a lot of people round you preaching the idea that you shouldn't let the opinions of other people affect what you want to do in life. At face value, a normal sentiment and one that I think the majority of people would agree with. I mean for … Continue reading It’s okay to care what other people think about you

Why working with children is one of the best things you can do.

Of course it is sad that children won't be able to have their home away from home for a summer but when put into perspective, if you can't guarantee a safe environment, then there's no question. But camp will survive. This has got me thinking though, and this is a post I've been meaning to write for a while. I've dedicated my last 7 summers working with children in the US and I wanted to just shed some light on why working with children is perhaps one of the best things you can do.

How to have a conversation

I'm sure you are all in a similar situation where the stresses of quarantine and self isolation has you speaking to yourself more than you usual. Maybe you're reflecting on your career, relationships or just generally other issues that plague our society other than Covid-19. When you delve deep into the rabbit hole that is YouTube you never knew how passionate you felt about The Slow Food Movement (Look it up).

Putting it into Perspective

Let me preface this whole thing by posing a question to you. Have you ever complained, or got really caught up about something that just seemed silly or unimportant? I believe we call these "First World Problems". For example not being able to decide which of your £100 trainers to wear or whether to put your tomatoes on the side of your plate or throw them straight in the trash. The basis of the "First World Problem" issue isn't actually that these aren't real problems, because they are, but they're not real problems in relation to other things that are happening in the world, often things that are not even happening to us.